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As I was cooking dinner recently (yes, I cook), a thought popped into my head. I was struck by how lucky I am to have a good friend who is a chef and how she helps me throughout the year when I need her.

Then it made me think about all of the different friends I have had throughout my life and I thought, “Why is it that we have so many best friends in our life and then naturally grow apart?”

Think about grade school; I’m sure you had a best friend that you did everything with but then maybe in high school things changed or you grew apart. So you found a new best friend. You would write notes back and forth, double date, do the same activities, but then college came along and you wound up separating.

Or maybe you still remain friends with that person during college, but then you get into serious relationships and those people become more important.

So when does the turnover of friends end? My guess is never. We are destined to meet so many people at different points in our lives and we need certain people to help keep us motivated, or give us praise, or even to dote on us. However, I think we need diversity in the people we hang out with and sometimes we have to let go of the people around us who aren’t moving in the same direction.

It’s hard at first, but in the end, when you decide to finally think about yourself and your needs, you will see that finding new friendships may be just what you need.

One saying that has stuck in my mind ever since Omarosa from The Apprentice quoted it when she got fired (yes, I know, but it’s a great quote never the less), is: “No man is your friend. No man is your foe. But every man is your teacher.” If you think on this quote and re-evaluate your past friendships and relationships it puts things in a unique perspective. For example, although you may have been hurt by someone’s actions, you learned a lesson and now you know what to look for when making decisions about new relationships in your adulthood and as you grow. Friendship is something that is precious and if you have that one great friend in life that you can count on and that loves you unconditionally then you are very lucky. But for the majority of us it will take two to three different friends to satisfy our needs — in a strictly platonic way, c’mon people!

Whitney’s Radar

Last week I spoke about how I went to Texas for an eWomen Network conference. I forgot to mention something. During one of the nights, the group had a few great surprises planned. One included a private shop at a closed-down Nordstrom just for us where we got free makeup makeovers along with free samples of perfumes and great coupons.

After I did my important shopping and browsing I decided to take advantage of the makeover. I am not the best at applying makeup and I hate that there so many layers that need to be put on in order to obtain that “perfect” look. However, since, I was on vacation I decided to go for it and I chose Mac Makeup because first, I love Mac, and secondly, I saw this woman who looked like she was a brilliant makeup artist so I had to have her do mine.

The thing I loved about my experience was not only did the woman do the makeover, but she had me hold a mirror to my face so I could watch how she applied everything from the eye shadow to the blush. I found that there are great products like a photo-finish powder and a highlighter for the face. It’s crazy! I’m very low maintenance when it comes to doing my own hair and makeup, but it was so easy.

There is a Mac Makeup in the Hamilton Mall, so check it out. While you’re there ask if you can watch the application of your makeup. You will learn a lot. And definitely have them show you the proper face highlighter; it’s my favorite must-have item right now!

Mac also has a Mac Pro card for professionals; makeup artists can get 40-percent off all of your purchases while actresses, models or performers could get 30-percent off. Visit the Mac Web site for more information.

Dishing out advice on various topics to our female readers on issues related to networking, dating, employment, news, events, shopping and much more. She is the current president of the Greater Atlantic City Jaycees and owner of My Jewels by Whitney.