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You come home from a long day at work and every little thing that your significant other does or says really bothers you — to the point where you start an argument.

A friend really makes you angry and instead of telling them, you go home and take it out on a loved one.

Sound familiar?

Well, many of us take out our anger and frustrations — stemming from occurrences in our daily lives — on the people that we love most. Maybe it’s because we know that they love us unconditionally.

We think we can just let off some steam on them.

Make them upset and they will forgive us later.

Taking out our frustrations on a loved one, knowing that they will be there for us later, after things have cooled down, can take an emotional toll on that someone — especially if repeated often. It’s important to stop and think before you speak (in all situations) and consider if what you are about to say is rational. Keep your emotions in check. You are bound to get into a heated argument with somebody at work, but don’t take that anger home. More importantly, resolve the issue with the person in question — not with your loved one.

OK, this may not be feasible for every couple. So, plan that when you get home from work, the two of you will talk about your days in order to get an understanding of what kind of place each other’s emotions are at. Good communication is key. So, once your issue-of-the-day is verbalized, it will make you feel a lot better (getting it off your chest) and it will definitely make things easier for everyone concerned (i.e., no silly arguments).

We have a saying posted in our home, which I try to bring to mind if an argument is afoot.

It reads: “It’s not that important.”

If you can pause long enough before erupting into anger and think of this phrase you may realize that you are just about to argue about something that is not that important. Remember, life is too short.

If you have a partner — or any loved one in your life — try to be conscious of your actions around them as much as possible. They’ll appreciate it.

Make sure to choose your arguments wisely.

Whitney’s Radar:

Have you been to The Quarter at the Tropicana lately? With all of the hype in recent years going to other big entertainment projects/venues in Atlantic City, one could almost forget that The Quarter was one of the first of the resort town’s modern-day entertainment mega-plexes.

If you haven’t been in a while, here’s a reminder: The Quarter, attached to the Tropicana Casino & Hotel, has a great selection of retail stores as well as an awesome group of popular restaurants and clubs.

I absolutely love Carmine’s and The Palm — both near the street entrance of The Quarter.

The food is amazing at Carmine’s. (And did you know they had a downstairs bar?) The ambiance and food are both incredible at The Palm too. Coming up, on Oct. 9, The Palm is hosting the 5th Annual “Movers. Shakers. Difference Makers. Luncheon,” which benefits Gilda’s Club South Jersey. The event gets sold out quickly so don’t miss your opportunity to help out Gilda’s Club.